Tuesday, January 28, 2014

My Day....

This will be a very short post. It was a busy, but pleasant day. I rode to Bessemer City, NC with Ronnie. I go on one day service calls because
I don't get as tired. We had a great day, laughing and talking and picking at one another.

Sis pulled in just after we got back home. We sat around the table while she filled us in on her day. She was so excited about her biology grade, the highest in the class!! Go Meredith.

After supper, Meredith finished her homework for tomorrow and Ronnie
began packing for the rest of the week. I was making plans for our next LBJ
meeting, sending out e-mails and answering phone calls.

While I was on FB, I just happened to see a prayer request for Bruce Cash on his FB page. His FB pages were closed out so I went to his wife, Kitty's, page.
I found out that Bruce passed away on the 13th of January. I was heart broken,
Bruce and I went to SHS together and sang in the chorus together. He was so talented and such a wonderful, Christian man. I wrote a sympathy note to his wife and then I had to make a couple of phone calls about his passing.

After Ronnie finished packing, we were all sitting around, watching television. He happened to get an e-mail from a co-worker, letting him know that another
co-worker had passed away Sunday morning. Rich was a salesman for the Southeast (Charlotte) and Ronnie enjoyed working with him and they became good friends. Ronnie said that Rich was a Christian man and it was a joy to
be able to relax and carry on a decent conversation with someone who understood where he was coming from. Please remember these two families in your prayers.

Well, book club tomorrow and I'm looking forward to it.

Until next time....

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Ramblings II

I am so happy that my cousin, Rebecca read and commented on my blog page. That makes me feel like somebody actually cares. So, I guess I'll try and catch you up.

As I said, the wedding was beautiful and the storm did hold off until they left. They stayed in Charlotte on their honeymoon night because they were catching a plane for a resort in Mexico. Justin had taken a cruise to Mexico with some racing buddies and he had a great time, except his room mate was a drunk. Anyway, I guess they assumed a resort would be just as good or better than a cruise. The only thing, the food is purchased locally and you do have to be careful with the water and the fresh fruits and veggies. Their room wasn't quite ready when they got to the resort, so they decided to eat lunch and then hopefully the room would be ready and they could go for a swim. Unfortunately, Jordan ate a salad and some watermelon and while she was swimming, she told Justin she wasn't feel well. By the time they got back into the room, Jordan became violently ill. Justin called the resort doctor and he came up to the room, charged $200.00 and told them he thought it was food poisoning and she needed to be taken to the ER. The ambulance came and started an IV, charged them $450.00 and took her to the hospital. When they arrived, the doctor refused to help her until they paid $2000.00. Justin told them that he had insurance and he wasn't paying them any cash. They took out the IV, put them in a taxi and sent them back to the resort, also the taxi charge was $45. Justin was hysterical and he called Leigh to see if she could help them get home. She did work it out for them to change their flight home with no charge, but the travel agency could not get anything back from the resort. They flew home on Monday evening after 1 full day at the resort. Jordan went to the doctor the next day and he diagnosed her with e-coli. Bless her sweet heart, she was so sick for about a week. I contacted the US Embassy in Mexico and told them what had happened and that I felt that the resort should pay them back all of their money, but it never happened. I really felt so badly for them and was happy when they were able to take a trip to Gatlinburg one week-end for a honeymoon trip.

Things settled in to a routine, but Mama was becoming more depressed and less mobile. She was also becoming so mean, much more than she had been. I realize she was sick, she was frustrated and she missed daddy. She also kept telling me she knew she was a burden and that we would be better off without her here. That always broke my heart and I was trying so hard to make her comfortable and to make sure she realized that she was a part of our family and that we thought that we had done the best thing for her. In the beginning it was rough but I really thought things were getting better, boy was I wrong. She was in and out of the hospital several times and each time she came back home, she was weaker and more depressed. Home Health was so helpful, but they told me that Mama wasn't making progress and they were going to turn her over to Hospice. Of course everybody freaks out when they hear Hospice, but the care is more accessible (24/7) and the care was more intense and involved. They were so patient and kind. As time went on, Mama had totally given up and was beginning to get physically weaker. We finally had to put her in a hospital bed and she developed a serious UTI. Mary Ann (Hospice Nurse) put in a catheter and her urine was nothing but thick and bloody and had a horrible odor. Her bag had to be emptied 2x daily and we started pushing the water. They also put her on a very mild dosage of morphine at night, to help her relax and breathe better. In a couple of weeks her urine was clear, it looked like gold and she felt so much better.

Justin and Jordan went to the Outer Banks for their 1st anniversary. On Friday, May 13th, Hospice came in and checked mom over and gave her a good bath. Later that evening Cookie and Mark came over for a visit. We had a wonderful time with mama, talking and laughing and remembering good times. After Cookie and Mark left. I gave mom her night time meds and her water and went into another part of the house. She started talking and then called me back into her part. She asked me who the man was sitting on the corner of the couch? I turned the light on and there was nobody there. I had sat in her wheelchair beside her bed the night before and she asked me to sit on the couch where she said the man was sitting. After a few minutes, I got up, told her I loved her and that I would see her in the morning.

On Saturday morning, May 14th at 10:30am, Meredith and I went back to wake mama for breakfast, luckily I was in front. When I called mama, she didn't answer, I went to the side of the bed and called her again.... she was gone. The man on the couch was her angel and he came sometime around 10am and took her home. She had prayed so many times in the weeks before, for the Lord to take her home, because she was tired. The Lord heard her prayer and brought her to her Heavenly home. She finally saw her Jesus face-to-face and bowed before Him to worship and honor Him. She was cured, her legs were healed and she could walk. She finally saw my daddy, the wonderful man that she had loved for almost 52 years and he smiled that sweet smile and took her by the hand. She saw her parents, her brothers, one of them that she had never met before. Mama was finally home.

I was in shock. Ronnie called Cindy and together she and Mark went to tell Cookie. I called Jordan, the Hospice nurse and then I began to call other family members, friends and church friends. I sat in the wheelchair by her bed and looked at how peaceful she was. Our relationship wasn't always the best, but in the last couple of months things between us had changed, they were better. We loved each other, but we didn't always like each other. Eventually, we realized that we were okay. She was gone.... my breakfast buddy, my Food Network partner was gone. I missed her already. The house seemed empty and quiet. I was happy for her because she was cured, she was with Jesus and with my daddy, but my life would never be the same.

Earlene and daddy's deaths were not unexpected, but the grief and pain were there. Mama's death was inevitable, but I thought we had a little more time and we would have, but she had given up. Her death was still a shock, a deep pain in my heart and I knew it would be some time before I could get through the pain and grief.

Sometimes it still hurts and of course I miss her and my daddy. However, my Heavenly Father carried me through. He gave me peace and comfort during the sad times. He gave me strength during the times I had to take care of everything that needed to be taken care of. I praise my Lord everyday for His faithfulness. I thank Him for holding my hand and guiding me through the lonely days. I love you daddy and mama, I miss you both and I will see you again one day. 

Just thinking

I was going to take up where I left off on my post yesterday, and I still may finish catching up.

The reason I quit posting before is because nobody every commented. Maybe 2 or 3 people would every once in a while. I always try to make a comment or at least like their comments, just so they would feel like somebody was reading their post and cared. I know that many people don't realize that my blog page is back up and I will post on my FB page again, just to remind them. I frankly do not think people really care and sometimes it feels like a waste of time.

Same thing on my FB page. The only reason I'm still on FB is, because I love posting pictures of Phoenix and my family. I am so proud of them and they are my greatest treasure. I'm genuinely interested in my friends posts and I love to see pictures of their children or grandchildren.

I'll give it a few more days on here and if nobody is interested, I may shut it down.
Shutting FB is harder, because through FB I have been to reconnect with friends from years ago and it's good to catch up with them.

Okay, next time I will try to finish catching up and I'll be watching to see who comments.

Until then....

Friday, January 24, 2014


For the last couple of days, I've been re-reading my older posts. This helped me to look back on what was going on in my life back then and how far we've come.

In my previous post I kind of tried to catch you up on what had been going on, no details just a brief post. I mentioned to you that my son, Justin and his high school sweetheart, Jordan, were married on May 15, 2010 at Denny's Plaza in up-town Spartanburg. Jordan had always wanted an outdoor wedding and her mom, Leigh, aunt Sande, Jordan and I spent an entire Saturday checking out outdoor venues. We went to several beautiful places. With an outdoor wedding, you always need a back-up plan in case of bad weather and most of these places had some very beautiful homes that could be used. We received pamphlets with everything that was included and the prices. They were beautiful, but none of them left us with that "feeling.' As we were leaving one of the places, I happen to ask Leigh why we couldn't have the wedding at Denny's uptown? She had worked with Denny's main office for over 25 years and she had some pull, so if she could get the okay from the decision makers, it would be a perfect place. So she called "Mr Denny" while we were driving down the road and within 5 minutes, we had the venue. This had never been done before and as far as I know, since then.

You know when you're making plans for your child's wedding, there is a lot of excitement and of course a lot of emotions. I wasn't sad, just sentimental, mostly I was happy and excited. Justin and Jordan were high school sweethearts and then Justin broke up with Jordan to date Kim. Of course Jordan dated other people and eventually Justin and Kim became engaged. Jordan and I still kept in touch and she even brought one of her boyfriends to the house to meet me. I remember when Justin and Jordan broke up, Leigh told Jordan.... "If it's meant to be, he'll be back."

If it had been left up to Justin, he and Kim would have married. Fortunately, it wasn't God's will for them to be together and I was thankful. I tried to love Kim and I did, but there was something about her and her family that made me very uncomfortable. Of course Ronnie and Meredith have never kept their feeling to themselves, so they were never happy with Kim. Meredith told me later on, after they broke up, that Kim had told her that Justin wasn't her "real" brother, just her step-brother. We have never made any difference in their status, just like we've never made any difference with Justin and his older brothers, Dale and Travis.

Kim had some very serious problems and I even had to set her straight one time. She was forever getting mad and leaving and Justin wouldn't really know what the problem was. I remember one night, she left and he went out the door behind her. A few minutes later he came in and said that she had tried to run him over. Well as the old saying goes.... "Hell hath no fury," in this case it was "like a pissed off mom. I got my shoes on and we were going to her house, but Justin begged me to let him handle it. I told him if he didn't get it handled, that I would. I was furious and this was when thing began to change.

Anyway, she broke up with him the weekend after Mother's Day and he was devastated. It was heart breaking to watch him go through the pain, but eventually he came through it. For six months things returned to normal and suddenly she called and apologized and wanted to come back. She ended it again, a few weeks later, but Justin handled it very well. I don't think he ever let himself believe she was sincere.

Justin had knee surgery a few weeks later and while he was home recovering, Kim would keep calling him and making him mad. Finally, he gave me the phone and said "Handle it." So I did, I was nice, but I just told her that Justin was going on with his life and she needed to do the same. I told her, don't call back Kim, because I'm answering the phone and you will not talk to him. Take care and I hope you find what you're looking for and that was that. No wonder she had major problems, her family was different, very quiet people. I liked her dad fine and so did Justin, but her mom was very strange and she didn't like Justin and the feeling was mutual. Thankfully, the Lord intervened and Justin was spared being married to a girl who didn't love him, in-laws that were strange and inevitably a divorce.

Thankfully, he and Jordan got back together and life was good again.

I enjoyed helping Jordan plan her wedding and going with her to pick the florist, the bakery and going with the bride's maids to pick out their dresses. Jordan wanted the girl's dresses to be black, but different styles. The one thing Justin wanted was to use Texas Long Horn orange as the main color. The men wore black tuxes and the flowers were gerberer daisies in orange, yellow and red. Jordan said that Justin and I could handle the music, which was right up my alley.

Shirley Lord was the director and every thing went as planned. Justin and I made a CD of processional music and then a separate CD for the ceremony. Our ensemble recorded "My Lord's Prayer for the ending prayer song, the Pastor (DJ), Justin and Andy and all of the attendants walked in on Canon in D and Jordan and Sid walked in on Ava Maria. There was a special sand ceremony, which is something new at weddings, taking the place of the unity candle. The biggest surprise was the recessional.... I bought a Texas Long Horn cd from their Long Horn band and they played all of the songs they play at the games. When Justin and Jordan stepped down the steps, everyone was standing and clapping and Justin and I did the Long Horn sign. It was so much fun.

We went inside the Denny's building for wedding cake and an ice cream bar.

As the bride and groom were leaving, the storm that they had been calling for was beginning to start, with wind and rain. However, in the happy couple's heart, there was nothing but sunshine and dreams come true.

Okay.... I'll catch you up next time, but I will try to make it shorter.

Thank you Lord in Heaven for prayers answered and dreams come true.

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

I'm ba-aaaack!!

January 21,2014 A couple of weeks back, Meredith told me that she had to have a blog page for one of her classes at Upstate. I told her that I use to have a blog page a few years back and I really enjoyed writing it. She was struggling with a name for her blog page and I mentioned mine, Megie's Musings. Of course that wasn't good enough for her, but when her teacher saw Meredith's Musings as one of her ideas, she loved it. So, her college blog page is Meredith's Musings. She so hates it when I'm right. There is a certain amount of freedom in writing a blog. I know there are many people who may read my blog, but it's not like Face Book. I try very hard to conduct myself as a Christian wife, mother and now a grandmother, but sometimes I really have a hard time being delicate or tactful and it's easier on here. I promise to catch up everything that has happened since I was on here last. The last thing I remember reading on my next to last post, Mama had just had her heart shocked back into rhythm, after the long serious illness, physical therapy and a long stay in a nursing home. She was home and I encouraged people to call and check on her, but that never happened. The last few years that she lived were lonely and sad years. She so missed my daddy, she thought she was a burden and she just gave up. I'll fill in more of the blanks later and I promise to end on a happier note. The happier note would be my family, of course. I'm sure you aren't surprise. Ronnie and I are still together, 23 years on the 20th of September. This is such a strong union in spite of ourselves. We were most certainly meant to be together and God has truly blessed our marriage and our family. I love Ronnie with all of my heart, but I would still like to choke him sometimes. Nothing new there. Now to the children.... Justin Horton and Jordan Compton were married on May 15,2010 at Denny's Plaza in uptown Spartanburg. It was a beautiful wedding and everything went off without a hitch. More on Justin and Jordan later. Our baby girl, Meredith, graduated Boiling Springs High School in May of 2013 and is now a freshman at Upstate, majoring in Elementary Education. She loves missions work and would love to be able to teach English as a second language over seas. She graduated high school with all A's and finished up her 1st semester at Upstate with 3) A's- 2) B's and a 3.8 GPA. She is a very smart girl and she is so sweet, with a quick sense of humor. She is growing into a very beautiful young woman. Now last, but certainly not least. On February 27,2014, our precious grand daughter, Phoenix Leighann Horton, will be 1 year old. There are no words to adequately describe my feelings for this little blessing from Heaven. From the moment she was born.... she was Justin Horton made over. There were a few times that she would look like Jordan and her dad, Sid. There were a few times she looked like her great Papa Horton.... Buck. However, for the most part she looks like her daddy, she has her mommy's smile, her daddy's blue eyes. Her blonde hair stands up all over her head but, she looks so precious in the hats, hair bows and headbands. She is "wide open," as her daddy would say. She crawls like she has a motor tied to her butt, pulls up on whatever, then she will squat, no hands, then she will stand up and shake her Elvis leg and dance. In other words.... She's a ham. She jabbers all of the time and is very nosey. She's very smart and she is trying to say some words, da-da is very plain, but she is trying to put other words together too. She is a precious gift from God, an answer to prayer, a beautiful and precious little baby girl. I am looking so forward to watching her grow up, but not too quickly. This first year has passed in a big blur and I want to enjoy every single moment of every day with Phe.